La historia de Jonás para niños – Tercera parte

La historia bíblica de Jonás para niños. Mi hija de 14 años y un servidor ayudámos a grabar para una escuela bíblica en México de nuestros jóvenes. Espero que la disfruten.

 

 

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It all Begins with God – Jeremiah 1

The truth of Scripture is clear: It all begins with God. This is exemplified for us in the life of Jeremiah in the first chapter. We learn that everything about us, even before we existed begins with God who calls us to follow him so that we can carry the tasks given to us. We must respond, acknowledge His workings in our lives and obey Him. When we do, He will use us.

 

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Reaching Hispanics in the US: Multiethnic Church

This workshop was given at our church. The purpose is to understand who Hispanics are, their characteristics, religious beliefs, their growth in the US (demographics) and how we can engage them with the Gospel of Christ. This is the outline for this section:

The Multiethnic Church of God

– We are One in Christ – Galatians 3:26-29

– We are the New Humanity – Eph 2.14-15, 19

– We are the Multiethnic Church of God Gathers in Heaven – Revelation 7:9-17; Revelation 5:8-9

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Reaching Hispanics in the US: Demographics and General Beliefs

This workshop was given at our church. The purpose is to understand who Hispanics are, their characteristics, religious beliefs, their growth in the US (demographics) and how we can engage them with the Gospel of Christ.

2. Hispanics in America

A. Demographic facts, trends and implications to reach them

B. Hispanic Generations in the US Engaging Hispanics with the Gospel

1. General religious beliefs.

2. How the Church can engage them with the Gospel.

3. How do I take steps for Gospel engagement?

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Reaching Hispanics in the US: History and General Characteristics

This workshop was given at our church. The purpose is to understand who Hispanics are, their characteristics, religious beliefs, their growth in the US (demographics) and how we can engage them with the Gospel of Christ. The outline for this section is:

Introduction

• My Story

• Reaching Hispanics in the New Samaria

Understanding Hispanics

1. General cultural characteristics of Hispanics

A. Geopolitical influences before and after the Spanish Conquest

B. General Economic and Educational status

C. General cultural distinctives

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The Role of Men as Husbands and Fathers

The role of men as husbands and fathers

 In my previous post I wrote about what man should be like as God designed him. These general points run counter to contemporary culture today, as it was in the past, and in particular Hispanic culture. In this post my focus is on the role of man as husband and father.

Let’s start with the role of husband. What are the roles of the husband in the home? From the Christian point of view, the roles are very clear. We must understand that the macho culture of the past and even in the present emphasized the role of head, boss, the one who “wore the pants.” This role has perhaps been the most abused by machista men. As we will see, the role is not bad in itself, but the application of the role is in complete opposition to how God commands it.

The man or gentleman once married has the role of nourishing his wife and his home. When I talk about nourishing, I am not talking about the material, which is obvious (men provide). The kind of nourishing I am referring to is that which helps to keep marriage in harmony and long lasting. He must nourish her with his love. This love according to the Bible imitates Christ’s sacrificial love for His Church. When the Lord died and rose again, it was to save His Church, those who believe in Him. Being the head of the church, he gave himself in sacrifice for his bride, the Church. This is the kind of love that a husband should have for his wife. Marriage between a man and a woman should be an example of Christ’s love for His church. In Ephesians it says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25). The principle is clear, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved His church. That love is sacrificial and perfect. It’s possible? If a person is truly a Christian, he can do so because God provides him with the power to do it. Otherwise, it will be an ideal that he will never be able to achieve.  Knowing this principle eliminates any notion of machismo in the home. Man is the head not to command but to lead by sacrificing himself with love, expressing the love of Christ to his bride.

He must not only nourish her with love but also with understanding, tenderness and honor.

God commands saying, “As for you husbands, be understanding with your wives. Give them the honor that is due to them, not only because women are more delicate, but also because God in his goodness has promised them the same life as you. Do so so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)

It is clear how the husband should treat his wife. The husband must learn to understand (which involves taking time to get to know her) his wife and must be the only person with whom there is emotional intimacy. He must take it into account in everything, giving it honor. The wife is also a co-heir (companions) of eternal life with her wife and is to be treated by the husband with the dignity that God has given her. It must be treated with delicacy and tenderness. God does not hear the prayers of husbands who do not treat their wives with understanding, tenderness, and honor.

The husband must also be his wife’s faithful lover. This implies two things. First, that God designed marriage between a man and a woman until death do them part. This means that God does not approve of divorce. When the Lord was asked about divorce, He was very clear saying, ” So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:6). Second, the husband must be faithful to his wife in the sexual area. God warns us to be unfaithful, ” Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. ” Hebrews 13:4 (KJV). His wife should be the only one with whom he should enjoy his sexual intimacy (Proverbs 5:15-19).

The husband as the head of the household has the responsibility of being the spiritual leader in his home. It is important for a man to know that as the spiritual leader he must submit to Christ who is the Head of the Church. The Bible says, “But I want you to know that Christ is the head of every man, and that the man is the head of the woman, and that God is the head of Christ.” (1 Corinthians 11:3). As a spiritual leader, the husband goes ahead following Christ and is also accountable to Him.

The husband is to be an example to his wife and children in the love he has for Christ. This means that the husband and father should be the first to seek the Lord and spend time in prayer each day, learning the truth of Him in the Bible, and taking his family to church. The husband and father should not be passive in this area and let the wife lead. I have been able to observe in many of the cases how men relegate their responsibility to wives. Many times, we ask in church, “Where are the men?” The spiritual laziness of men is very obvious, but this must change.

The father must be the chief spiritual instructor. The role of being a spiritual teacher involves instructing your children in the ways of Christ. This involves spending time with them talking to them and teaching them. Our primary goal as spiritual leaders is that our children may come to know Christ as their Savior and may grow in Him in all wisdom until they are true, mature, and responsible Christians. The moral and spiritual deviation of children today is due to the fact that the father has not fulfilled this role that God gave him.

The father must be the one who educates his children. He should not only be the teacher in spiritual education but also in moral instruction. This involves teaching them the biblical moral ethics we find in the Bible that goes against what our culture has taught us. We must teach them good manners, the right treatment of the opposite sex, chivalry to men and women to act like a lady. They must also be taught about the sexual purity they must have until they get married. They should see the demonstration of affection between mom and dad as part of God’s design. Both the father and the mother should be the example that their children want to imitate. The best example a husband can give to his children is how he loves his wife. Safe homes are those in which the children can clearly see the father’s love for his wife.

The father must lovingly correct and discipline his children. This involves not only appropriate physical discipline without anger but accompanied by instruction in what is good and bad, right and wrong. Part of correction is protecting our children not only from physical dangers but from moral and spiritual dangers. Today’s culture (including the Hispanic macho one) is opposed to God’s truth and infiltrates all social media. Our duty is to protect them.

The father should also spend time enjoying himself with his family. The father should raise his children according to their good inclinations that go with their personalities and characters and not according to what he could not achieve as a child. For this it is necessary to spend time with each one to get to know them. The goal is to help our children develop Christlike character with qualities such as independence, confidence, honesty, diligence, and perseverance that will help them in the future.

As parents we need to have the spirit of Elijah to turn the hearts of parents to their children (Malachi 4:5-6). For this we must teach and be an example to our children. We must teach them that what we have received from our “machista” Hispanic culture is not what God wants for us. We must teach them the truths I have described in this post. Will you be one with the spirit of Elijah?

 

 

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Rompiendo la disfunción de los hombres en la cultura hispana: El rol de los hombres como esposos y papás

Rompiendo la disfunción de los hombres en la cultura hispana: El rol de los hombres como esposos y papás

 Hoy es el día del padre.  Es a propósito que he dejado esta publicación para este día. En las dos publicaciones que he escrito anteriormente, he hablado sobre la disfunción que tenemos en la cultura hispana[1] debido a la falta de los padres en el hogar.  El llamado de Dios para nosotros es que seamos los esposos y papás que él nos dio. Necesitamos ayuda, buenos modelos y enseñanza. He compartido en la iglesia sermones sobre el diseño de Dios para la familia que se pueden encontrar aquí.

Pensando en este día, creo que la mayoría de nosotros que somos padres cristianos que nos hemos esforzado en romper la disfunción de nuestro pasado con nuestros hijos no queremos mucho en este día. No buscamos reconocimiento o regalos. No queremos que nos digan que somos el mejor padre del mundo, porque no lo somos. Lo que queremos en este día, es un simple “gracias.” La mayoría de nosotros estamos contentos con un “Gracias papá por ser mi padre y por todo lo que has hecho por mí. Gracias por tu esfuerzo de ser un papá que cumple el rol que Dios te ha dado.” Eso es suficiente para mí. De parte mía a todos los papás, “¡Gracias! Sigamos adelante cumpliendo nuestros roles como hombres, esposos y padres que Dios nos ha dado.”

Ahora al tema de esta publicación.

En mi publicación anterior escribí sobre cómo debe ser el hombre según lo diseñó Dios. Estos puntos generales van en contra de la cultura contemporánea de hoy, así como también lo fue en el pasado, y en particular la cultura hispana. En este ensayo mi enfoque es el rol del hombre como esposo y como padre.

Comencemos con el rol de esposo. ¿Cuáles son los roles del esposo en el hogar? Desde el punto de vista cristiano, los roles son muy claros. Debemos entender que la cultura machista del pasado y aun en el presente enfatizó mucho el rol de cabeza, jefe, el que “llevaba los pantalones.” Este rol ha sido quizás el más abusado por parte de los hombres machistas. Como miraremos, el rol no es malo en sí, pero la expresión del rol está en completa oposición a cómo Dios lo manda.

El hombre o el caballero una vez se ha casado tiene el rol de ser el sustentador de su esposa y de su hogar. Cuando hablo de sustento no hablo de lo material, que es obvio. El tipo de sustento al que me refiero es el que ayuda a tener al matrimonio en armonía y longevidad. Él debe sustentarla con su amor. Este amor según la Biblia imita el amor sacrificial de Cristo para su Iglesia. Cuando el Señor murió y resucitó fue para salvar a su Iglesia, a los que creen en Él. Siendo la cabeza de la iglesia, se dio en sacrificio por su esposa, la Iglesia. Este es el tipo de amor que el esposo debe tener para con su esposa. En sí, el matrimonio de un hombre y una mujer debe ser ejemplo del amor de Cristo hacia su iglesia. En Efesios dice, “Maridos amad a vuestras mujeres, así como Cristo amó a la iglesia y se entregó a sí mismo por ella.” (Efesios 5:25). El principio es claro, los esposos debemos amar a nuestras esposas como Cristo amó a su iglesia. Ese amor es sacrificial y perfecto. ¿Es posible? Sí la persona es verdaderamente cristiana, puede hacerlo porque Dios le provee el poder para hacerlo. De otra manera será un ideal que no podrá alcanzar jamás.  Sabiendo este principio elimina cualquier noción de machismo en el hogar. El hombre es cabeza no para mandar sino para ir adelante sacrificándose con amor, dándole el amor de Cristo a su esposa.

No solo debe de sustentarla con amor sino también con comprensión, ternura y con honor.    Dios manda diciendo, “En cuanto a ustedes, los esposos, sean comprensivos con sus esposas. Denles el honor que les corresponde, no solamente porque la mujer es más delicada, sino también porque Dios en su bondad les ha prometido a ellas la misma vida que a ustedes. Háganlo así para que nada estorbe sus oraciones.” 1 Pedro 3:7 (VP)

Queda claro como el esposo debe tratar a su esposa. El esposo debe aprender a comprender (lo cual implica tomar tiempo para conocerle) a su esposa y debe ser la única persona con la cual hay intimidad emocional. Debe tomarla en cuenta en todo, dándole honor. La esposa es también coheredera (compañeros) de la vida eterna con su esposa y debe ser tratada por el esposo con la dignidad que Dios le ha dado. Debe ser tratada con delicadeza y ternura. Dios no escucha las oraciones de los esposos que no tratan con comprensión, ternura y honor a sus esposas.

El esposo también debe ser el fiel amante de su esposa. Esto implica dos cosas. Primero, que Dios diseño el matrimonio entre un hombre y una mujer hasta que la muerte les separe. Esto quiere decir que Dios no aprueba el divorcio. Cuando le preguntaron al Señor acerca del divorcio, él fue muy claro diciendo, “así que ya no son dos, sino un solo ser. Por tanto, lo que Dios ha unido, que no lo separe nadie.” (Mateo 19:6). En segundo lugar, el esposo debe ser fiel a su esposa en el área sexual. Dios nos advierte de ser infieles, “Que todos respeten el matrimonio y mantengan la pureza de sus relaciones matrimoniales; porque Dios juzgará a los que cometen inmoralidades sexuales y los que cometen adulterio.” Hebreos 13:3 (VP). Su esposa debe ser la única con la cuál debe disfrutar su intimidad sexual (Proverbios 5:15-19).

El esposo como cabeza del hogar tiene el cargo de ser el líder espiritual en su hogar. Es importante que el hombre sepa que siendo el líder espiritual él debe someterse a Cristo que es la Cabeza de la Iglesia. La Biblia dice, “Pero quiero que sepan que Cristo es la cabeza de todo hombre, y que el hombre es la cabeza de la mujer, y que Dios es la cabeza de Cristo.” (1 Corintios 11:3). Como líder espiritual, el esposo va adelante siguiendo a Cristo y también le rinde cuenta a Él.

El esposo debe de ser ejemplo a su esposa e hijos en el amor que tiene a Cristo. Esto quiere decir que el esposo y padre debe ser el primero en buscar al Señor y dedicar tiempo en la oración cada día, aprendiendo la verdad de Él en la Biblia, y de llevar a su familia a la iglesia. El esposo y padre no debe ser pasivo en esta área y dejar que la esposa dirija. He podido observar en muchos de los casos como los hombres relegan su responsabilidad a las esposas. Muchas veces preguntamos en la iglesia, “¿Dónde están los hombres?” La flojera espiritual de los hombres es muy obvia, pero esto debe cambiar.

El padre debe ser el instructor principal espiritual. El rol de ser instructor espiritual envuelve instruir a sus hijos en los caminos de Cristo. Esto implica pasar tiempo con ellos hablándoles y enseñándoles. La meta principal nuestra como líderes espirituales es que nuestros hijos lleguen a conocer a Cristo como su Salvador y puedan crecer en Él en toda sabiduría hasta ser cristianos verdaderos, maduros y responsables. El desvío moral y espiritual de los hijos hoy día se debe a que el papá no ha cumplido con este rol que Dios le dio.

El padre debe ser el que educar a sus hijos. El no solo debe ser el maestro en la educación espiritual sino también la instrucción moral. Esto implica enseñarles la ética moral bíblica que encontramos en la Biblia que va en contra de lo que nuestra cultura nos ha enseñado. Debemos enseñarles los buenos modales, el trato correcto entre el sexo opuesto, la caballerosidad a los hombres y a las mujeres el actuar como dama. Hay que también enseñarles sobre la pureza sexual que deben tener hasta que se casen. Deben ver la demostración del afecto entre mamá y papá como parte del diseño de Dios. Tanto el padre como la madre deben ser el ejemplo que sus hijos quieren imitar. El mejor ejemplo que el esposo puede dar a sus hijos es cómo ama a su esposa. Los hogares seguros son aquellos en los cuáles los hijos pueden ver claramente el amor del padre hacia su esposa.

El padre debe corregir con amor y disciplinar a sus hijos. Esto implica no solo castigo físico apropiado y sin enojo sino acompañado con instrucción en que lo que es bueno y malo, correcto e incorrecto. Parte de la corrección es proteger a nuestros hijos no solo de los peligros físicos sino de los peligros morales espirituales. La cultura de hoy (incluyendo la machista hispana) está opuesta a verdad de Dios y se infiltra por todos los medios sociales. Nuestro deber es protegerles.

El padre debe también pasar tiempo disfrutando con su familia. El padre debe criar a sus hijos de acuerdo con las inclinaciones buenas que van de acuerdo con sus personalidades y caracteres y no según lo que él no pudo lograr como niño. Para esto es necesario que pase tiempo con cada uno para conocerlos. La meta es ayudar a nuestros hijos a desarrollar el carácter cristiano con cualidades como la independencia, la confianza, la honestidad, la diligencia y la perseverancia que les ayudará en el futuro.

Como padres necesitamos tener el espíritu de Elías el profeta para hacer volver los corazones de los padres hacia los hijos (Malaquías 4:5-6). Para esto debemos enseñar y ser ejemplo de nuestros hijos. Debemos enseñarles que lo que hemos recibido de nuestra cultura hispana machista no es lo que Dios quiere para nosotros. Debemos enseñarles las verdades que he descrito en este ensayo. ¿Será Ud. uno con el espíritu de Elías?

[1] Esta disfunción no es solo de los hombres Hispanos. En los Estados Unidos el 21% o 15.3 millones de niños viven con solo su mama. Esto a incrementado desde los años 1968 en el cual el porcentaje era de solo 11%. En estas estadísticas, los Afroamericanos son lo que tienen el mayor número de hijos sin padres, seguidos por los Hispanos. (Number of Kids Living Only With Their Mothers Has Doubled in 50 Years (census.gov)

 

Otras publicaciones en esta serie:

Machismo, hombres y padres en la cultura hispana – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

Rompiendo la disfunción de los hombres en la cultura hispana: ¿Cómo debe ser un hombre? – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

Machismo, Men and Fathers in Hispanic Culture – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

Breaking the dysfunction of men in Hispanic culture – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

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Recursos para los Padres

Aquí proveo enlaces de enseñanza bíblica para los padres (mamás y papás). Vivimos en tiempos en los cuáles no podemos ser pasivos en la crianza de nuestros hijos, o los educamos nosotros o los educa la cultura.

Honrando a nuestros Padres – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

Preguntas sobre honrar a nuestros padres y madres – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

Honrando a nuestros Padres – Éxodo 20:12; Lev. 19:3; Efesios 6:1-2 – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

El Deber de los Hijos y Padres – Efesios 6 – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

El Deber de Los Padres – Efesios 6:4; Colosenses 3:21 – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

El Deber de los Padres – Efesios 6:4; Colosenses 3:21 – Segunda Parte – Eig Blog (eigaldamez.com)

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Necesité un Padre

Necesité un Padre

Marzo 13 de 2013 mi Padre murió. A pesar de que nos abandonó cuando éramos niños, él es el hombre que Dios eligió para darme la vida. He escrito sobre ello en varias publicaciones mayormente en inglés, pero aquí comparto uno que escribí cuando mi padre falleció. Siempre he pensado en rol de los padres con sus hijos.  También he leído un poco sobre el rol de los padres en la vida de los niños. La conclusión es indiscutible (ver esto aquí y aquí). Los padres son importantes en la vida de sus hijos. Supongo que, si hubiera tenido que elegir entre un padre no tan bueno y no tener uno, habría elegido tener uno, pero esto no me fue concedido. No guardo ningún rencor ni resentimiento, ni juzgo al hombre que Dios escogió para darme la vida. Ciertamente él ha rendido cuentas a Dios (Hebreos 9:27). Estoy agradecido de vivir y de que Dios me haya bendecido con el don de conocerlo.  Sin embargo, siempre ha sido muy desconcertante e inquietante cómo los hombres pueden abandonar a los hijos que conciben voluntariamente y nunca volver atrás. Todavía no lo he entendido.

Crecer sin un padre no fue fácil. Vivir con mujeres (siete y mi mamá) no fue fácil. No tenía a nadie a quien admirar. No tenía idea de lo que debía ser un hombre. Me sentía inseguro. Necesitaba un padre. Hasta los 13 años, no tuve modelos masculinos, ninguno, ni siquiera abuelos.  Fue cuando me uní a una iglesia a la edad de 13 años que Dios puso modelos masculinos en mi vida. Los dos líderes juveniles y mi pastor de jóvenes se convirtieron en mis modelos a seguir. No eran en ninguna manera perfectos, sin embargo, Dios los usó para formarme como hombre. Y, sin embargo, seguía necesitando un padre.

A los 21 años me convertí en padre. Había estudiado libros y tenía una idea de lo que debería ser un padre, pero la experiencia me enseñó que realmente no estaba tan preparado como pensaba. Necesitaba un padre. Tampoco era muy diestro con mis manos (incluso ahora), no era un manitas porque necesite un padre.

Cuando miro a mi hijo de 31 años y veo lo mucho que se parece a mí, me alegra (y el hecho de que todavía me llame “papá”). No porque sea perfecto o porque sienta que lo hice muy bien como padre, sino porque sé que él tiene un padre. Aunque de ninguna manera no fui perfecto (nadie lo es) tiene un ejemplo a seguir. Él sabe lo que debe ser un hombre y padre.  Tiene un punto de referencia ahora que él es padre de mi nietecita de un año. Sé que toma su rol de padre en serio como yo lo tomé. Dios nos ha dado el deber de ser padres como cristianos.

Incluso ahora, después de todo este tiempo, pienso en lo mucho que lo necesité.

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Breaking the dysfunction of men in Hispanic culture

In my previous post I talked about machismo and how its effects have affected not only the image, the role of men as fathers and husbands but also the effect on the family. As I mentioned in that post, my wish is that as Hispanics we can see the origin of the dysfunction and its effects, but at the same time, my desire in this second post is to show the alternative we have. In my role as a pastor, I have worked with Hispanic men for many years. Many of them are Christians, and although I can see that they have left some of machismo’s misconceptions, there is much more that they do not know how to do, have not been taught or simply refuse to do to be better as men, husbands and fathers.

As I mentioned before, I grew up without a father and although I had male roles during my youth, none of them were perfect. With all this, it was not enough to replace the fact of not having a father. In raising my four children, I’ve had to be intentional about doing more than just being home and being the head of the household. I have been intentional in teaching my children how to live life as Christians. Even with all this, I have not been an ideal father. In hindsight, I think I could have done even more. I’ve tried a lot to learn from my mistakes and be a better father to my last daughter who is fourteen years old. My desire is not to be perfect, but to learn what can help her in her future. I know I have no control over her future, but I want to provide her with what she needs to live a life as God designed her. Similarly, although my other three children are now adults and live independent lives, now my role is to pray for them daily and if they allow me, to help them in the areas where they need me. This role is quite sporadic as they live their lives. One thing that has helped me is writing my thoughts to some of them that I think may help them one day.

But back to addressing the subject of this publication, the question we must answer is what is our role as men, husbands and fathers? The answer for me is not in sociology, psychology, books on parenting, or in self-improvement manuals. Since God was the one who formed man and woman, He also assigned our roles in the family as husbands and fathers. So, this post deals with what I’ve learned from the Holy Scriptures about how to be a man, a husband, and a father. I understand that not everyone is a husband or father, but equally, what the Bible teaches applies to all men in whatever state they find themselves in.

What is a man as God designed him?

1. A man is a gentleman.
Although the culture in which we live has rejected the image of man who behaves “manly” because of his negative history that we have already seen, the Bible commands men in 1 Corinthians 16:13 to “behave manly.” “Manly” is the word that was used to translate strong or courageous. To be a man is to be strong (physically) and brave.

The idea of being a male or being strong and brave can be seen from the origin of the word “knight”. The knight in the Middle Age was a group of riders skillfully trained to defend the king and as an extension the rights of the people. They strived to give honor to God and to the Church. They were not only strong, skilled, and courageous in defending, but they possessed a code of moral honor that included being brave, humble, and loyal. Their moral code was also demonstrated in their dealings with women. These men behaved with honor before them and treated them as true gallants (one who is characterized as a gentleman), not only physically attractive but with chivalry.

Behaving brave and strong (manly) has the idea that we should not only be brave to protect everyone, but particularly women. The gentleman is noble, courteous and well-mannered. This is the treatment he gives to all women. Moreover, as Christians, we are brothers and sisters in Christ. A brother in Christ is going to treat a woman the way Christ treats her. To do otherwise is an affront to Christ Himself. The brute, rustic and abusive treatment of machismo must be rejected.

In addition to this, chivalry goes beyond the treatment of them. We must be gentlemen treating them with respect, which implies treating them with moral and sexual purity.

A real man does not seek to take sexual advantage of a woman. The man of God according to the Bible is the one who remains pure until he gives himself to a woman as a wife (1 Thess. 4:3-8). Having sex before marriage is not only a sin before God, but it also hurts the woman. Here is an article that goes in detail about how this happens. Despite my lack of a father, this was something I learned in church as a young man. I always had the conviction that the woman I would love would be the one I would marry and give myself sexually. Thank the Lord, this was the case.

Once married, a man must be faithful to his wife for life. A woman must be his lover. His sexual delight should only come from his wife and no one else (Proverbs 5:15-19).
God warns us of the harm that adultery and sexual immorality bring (Proverbs 2:16-22; 5:1-14; 1 Cor. 6:9-20).

2. A man is vulnerable who expresses his emotions and feelings.

Machismo has taught us that men must act without defects and emotionally closed. To be otherwise, according to this, is to be weak and effeminate (“mandilón, [“wears an apron” a man that wears an apron is considered weak] as the Mexicans say). This is not God’s design. We find the example of the Lord Jesus who not only demonstrated compassion toward others, including vulnerable women (prostitutes—Luke 7:36-50), love for children (Matthew 18:15-17), and even wept (John 11:35).

Perhaps the most courageous man in the Bible was King David. Not only was he brave, but he was also a man who expressed his emotions and feelings. The psalms are replete with prayers where David weeps and expresses his emotions before God. When his son Absalom passed away, David expressed his grief openly (2 Samuel 18:33). Jeremiah the prophet was called “the weeping prophet” for crying so much. As men, God designed us to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings and emotions.

3. A man shows love and affection.
Machismo has taught us that we should not show love and affection, but this is contrary to what God commands us. We must show love. Showing love involves more than giving tangible things (providing). Love must be shown in character and actions. As Christian men we are to express God’s love to others. God’s love goes beyond emotions. We have a full chapter on this type of love in 1 Corinthians 13. It is a love that shows character virtues. God’s love is one that gives and serves others sacrificially. We can see this love demonstrated in Christ’s sacrifice in giving His life for us. Part of this involves verbalizing our love by saying, “I love you”. It involves showing physical affection through hugs and kisses. It can also express itself in written forms (this is my favorite form). Love involves listening to others, without judging respecting the opinions of others.

4. A man accepts his faults and asks for forgiveness.

Machismo has taught us that we should not admit our faults and even less ask for forgiveness. But God teaches us the opposite. Part of our relationship with God is to accept our sins, confess them, and ask for forgiveness (this is what the Lord Prayer teaches us). This applies not only to our relationship with God but also with others. Verbalizing our faults and asking for forgiveness should be part of our lives as men and should be accompanied by repentance. This means that if we do something that harms others, we should not do it anymore. Asking for forgiveness is not worth much when our intention is not to stop doing what harms others.

5. A man controls his anger.
Machismo has taught us that anger must be expressed with anger, yelling and even violence. This is totally contrary to what God commands us as men. God commands us to remove this kind of anger (Ephesians 4:31). Anger often leads to sin (Prov. 29:22). Giving vent to our anger is foolishness (Prov. 29:11) and leads to worse things (“Follies” says Prov. 14:17). A man who abuses verbally and even physically, is a man who not only does not deserve respect but demonstrates his lack of manliness. This man needs help from God and others and must seek it as soon as possible before there are worse repercussions, including legal.

I thought that two publications would be enough to deal with the issue of machismo in our culture. But I think it demands a third part in which I will write about the roles of husbands in their homes.

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